In view of the tremendous interest a second edition of my book has been published in Windpferd Verlag under the title of "Glaubenssätze & Überzeugungen Von mentaler Selbstsabotage zu innerer Stärke und Ausstrahlung".
An accompanying CD with relaxing meditations and exercises is also available.
Do You Love Yourself the Way You Are?
Take your time to read the questions one by one, and then answer spontaneously, without mulling them over again. Don’t worry, you can’t do anything wrong. And this quiz is just for you alone.
Are you ready?
1.
Do you often (have to) put aside your own needs, desires, or concerns to satisfy those of others?
yes
no
2.
Do you sometimes even fulfil other people’s needs at the expense of your own health or well-being?
yes
no
3.
Have you been brought up with the belief that it is selfish to want to come first?
yes
no
4.
Do you sometimes feel that you don’t treat your body with the care and attention it deserves? Do you exercise too little? Do you lack sleep? Do you eat an unhealthy diet?
yes
no
5.
Is it easier for you to excuse other people’s mistakes than your own?
yes
no
6.
Do you find it difficult to pay others the respect you expect to receive from them?
yes
no
7.
Do you find it difficult to still like or tolerate people when they make mistakes?
yes
no
8.
Do you allow too few people to be affectionate, supportive, compassionate, or caring towards you?
yes
no
9.
Do you think that you are unable to attract people who are affectionate, supportive, compassionate, or caring towards you?
yes
no
10.
Do you find it difficult to talk to your partner (or to your parents or friends) honestly and openly about yourself? Do you fear problems or troubles if you expressed your true feelings or needs?
yes
no
11.
Do you get the impression that the give and take in your relationships is off balance? Do you often feel that you give more than you receive?
yes
no
12.
Do you often feel in your relationships that you need to fight hard to be heard or to press your point?
yes
no
13.
Do you often believe that you are simply not loveable?
yes
no
14.
Did you ever regard the breakup of a relationship as proof that you are not good enough, not loveable, or not valuable?
yes
no
15.
Did you ever experience the breakup of a relationship as crushing, like a personal defeat? Do you find it difficult to regard such a situation as a possibility of personal growth?
yes
no
Result: Your capacity to love yourself and others is very well developed. Your relationships are balanced and healthy. You are probably not affected by sabotaging beliefs on this issue.
Result: Do your close relationships leave a lot to be desired, perhaps you've reached a point where you're longing for something quite different? You may be sabotaging yourself in such a way that you're waiting and hoping that your partner is going to change.
Result: You probably carry sabotaging beliefs within you that negatively affect your self-esteem or self-love, or that complicate your communication in relationships.
A good relationship with oneself is a wise investment.
